Anonymous asked: any advice? im just so unsure. should i just see how everything goes and tell her the truth if and when she speaks to me again? x -s-
the way i see it is that if shes already not talking to you, and you like him enough not to drop him and do everything to fix things with her.. then just go for it. you kind of already made the decision to stick with him and let the friendship take what ever course happens, so go with the guy and see what happens.
Anonymous asked: somoene just messaged me on tumblr to kill myself.
and their opinion means shit.. honestly babe, this is tumblr, and even if someone told you that to your face.. you have to understand that your life has nothing to do with their live. and those who are going to be immature, low and cold hearted deserve no place in your life or your mind, so ignore them.. go on with your life and dont let the little people bring you down. be stronger than them.
Anonymous asked: she is just making me feel terrible for doing it. i mean i love being with him so much. she said i was doing this thing for so many months now (even though i used to like another guy so why would i be holding this guys hand then, it just makes no sense). she also told people that i like him, but i never told her i liked him. but thank goodness her best friend is still speaking to me and said she doesnt want to be friends with me cuz she knows i will take him from her again. i just feel crap. -s-
sometimes theres nothing you can do about certain things.. and honesty you didnt have to tell her for her to know.. you can see it when someone likes someone else. but shes hurt, and you cant expect her to do anything other than what she is doing. im sorry you feel like crap, but sometimes when we decide to do something we have to live with what will happen after.
Anonymous asked: same message as before. btw im -s- i want to speak to my friend but she is ignoring me and making up rumors about me, my friends say that i should just do what i like because its not as if something went on. i feel so bad, but im so unsure. the thing is that flirt is one of my best guy friends and i dont want to lose him, he comes up daily and hugs, i cant just say stop. im trying to hang with him without my friend seeing. i duno i just dont want to let go of him but i dont want to be mean to he
i guess all i can say is that if shes not willing to talk to you about it and you dont want to let him go, then dont. but be prepared that she is going to keep up with the rumors and ignoring you. you cant help that you like him and if shes going to act like a child about it, then do as you please. most of the time i advocate that you should fix things with your friend, but you are also young and a true friend wouldnt be making up rumors about you right now and would be talking to you about what is going on. you just have to decide… if shes going to be mean to you, doesnt mean you should be mean to her, but if shes going to treat you like shit you shouldnt suffer from it.
Anonymous asked: this guy who is kinda a flirt. my close friend likes him. people kept saying he likes me. today we were walking and he held my hand, then we lay down and watched the clouds, he was pointing out the clouds that looked like a heart we were then discussing who we liked and i said im not sure so he looked me in the eye brushed my hair out of my face and said me either. okay so know i think i like him. until my close friend came up crying and is so pissed at me. what do i do? im 13, btw. xxx
i think you need to talk to your friend. or you need to make a decision on your own. the truth is that a girl code exists and if she likes him and you dont want to lose her, and shes not going to be okay with it, which most likely she wont.. then you need to just let it go with him. the way i see it is that losing a friend over a guy is never worth it. the friends i had when i was 13 i still have, the guys that i liked when i was 13.. i dont even remember them.
you have to decide what you want, you can talk to her about it and tell her how you feel, but also know that if shes completely not okay with it, then shes going to act on it and you are going to lose her. it might sound stupid, but again.. friends should always be more important than a guy, and any guy that comes between you and a friend is more than likely not worth it. i hate to say that since you are 13 you should realize that this guy is probably not the guy you will be with for the rest of your life, but your friend, there’s a better chance she will be your friend for the rest of your life.
i cant tell you what to do, but think about that.
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Anonymous asked: this is a really stupid question but do u think its dumb to make wishes at 11:11 like they won't come true will they?
i mean i guess its up to you what you want to believe but in all reality im not one who really believes that you can just wish for something and it will happen. if thats how it worked we would all have everything we want. but i still make wishes on 11:11 and shooting stars just because its kind of like a little piece of hope that maybe a miracle will happen or it pushes me to make my own wishes come true. so no, i wont say that its a dumb thing to do its a hopeful thing to do but you have to chase your own wishes.
Anonymous asked: so cutting needs to bleed otherwise its considered self harm. damn, im going to make it bleed. shit im crying....
cutting is self harm and self harm is cutting. the definitions you find of what the 2 of them mean seperately means nothing. either way you are inflicting pain on yourself and leaving memories and scars that are going to last a life time, read the post beneath this one. its never to late to get help, to get out, and find another way to deal with your pain. and im always here for you.
Anonymous asked: is cutting still considered cutting if you dont bleed but rather scrape yourself deeply? and does cutting have to be on the inside of your arm, cuz i do the outside part as it easier...
cutting is cutting no matter where or how you do it. cutting doesnt just mean you are making your wrist bleed. tons of girls cut their legs, their stomachs and all other parts of their bodies. but what you need to know is that it isnt good for you. its self harm and it i dont just mean that you are leaving marks on your body. it can hurt you more inside than anything. im pretty sure you already know all of this, but cutting can lead to more serious problems, like deep depression, and finding other ways to deal with your pain such as drugs and so on. if i were you i would start to get out while you can. try talking to someone, your parents, a school counselor a friend that has been in your position before and ended it. if you keep doing this then its only going to get worse and those scrapes will turn into deep gashes and thats something you can never erase. cutting will stay with your for the rest of your life, the memories the scars they dont fade. you have to be stronger than everything that makes you want to hurt yourself, stand up for yourself and find a way to end it. i know therapy sounds stupid and makes you feel like you cant do anything alone, but the truth is that sometimes we need a little help, we need someone to push us to find the source of all our pain, and teach us how to deal with it in healthier ways.
Anonymous asked: so um yeah. i have liked this guy on and off and i just found out he liked me too. so i flirted with him to see what he would do and he held my hand and did cute things. then rumors spread (this was all in one day at a camp) and he had a chat and i told him what i knew.... he doesn't like me and asked if i liked him, i said i dont know... sorry, what should i do, get over him. cuz he was flriting heaps...
if people were spreading rumors he might be trying to hide the fact that he does like you. because flirting with you and holding your hand gives off the vibe that he does like you. if i were you i would just give it some time play it out and see what happens. he might be scared to admit it or show it because of what other people say. guys get nervous too and sometimes they try to hide their feelings because they know that other people are going to tease him or rag on him for liking a girl. but if you like him and he flirts with you see what happens before you give up, or admit to him that you like him and see what happens. he could have thought that you didnt like him and thats why its coming off or hes saying he doesnt like you. guys dont like being rejected just as much as a girl doesnt. but if you want to know and if you really like him you have to put yourself out there and find out for sure.
Anonymous asked: this is probobly one of the most stupidest questions you will ever get but im 16 and im soo scared of being a virgin forever all i hear from my friends mouths how wonderful there boyfriends are, how there sexual experinces on the weekend went and i dont know what to say because i have never been in a proper relationship i dont know any guys since i go to a girls school i just want to have on guy friend im just soo scared that i will be like this forever, no boyfriend no guy friend a virgin forve
i think you just have to realize that you are still so much younger than you think you are. i was on of those girls that had guys when i was younger, lost my virginity at 15 and now when i look back i wish that i had realized that sex is worth the wait. i understand the want for a guy in your life, and there are other ways than through your school to find guy friends, like through your friends that maybe dont go to school with you, or even take the friends you do go to school with and venture out to other schools for their sports games and so on. but dont get caught up in the idea that you are going to be a virgin forever. i know that in this day and age sex seems like something that people just do, but its not like that. i know so many people have sex because well, we think we are supposed to, we think it will make someone love us, make us feel grown up and powerful. but sex is more than you think, its something that needs to be done with someone you truly care about, someone you cant imagine your life without. so wait for that time, dont rush and dont do it because everyone else talks about it. you dont want to look back and feel like you rushed, you have to be ready. and you have to understand that you are young, and you have plenty of time for love and sex.. the way i see it is that more important that guys or sex right now, is your friendships, sex at that age wont last a lifetime, but the friends you make now can.
Anonymous asked: dad is bipolar and his father also suffered intense depression, leaving me with about a 15-30% chance of developing either disease (althought i am ALOT more like my mother, both personality wise&looks wise). i've smoked weed once before, but never actually gotten high. i want to try it, just once. i've seen what it does to people&how it tears them apart when they get hooked&i definitely don't want that, i just want to try it once. i'm scared of it increasing my chances of depression
my sister is bipolar among other things, and went through many years of intense depression. and i guess it all depends on the intensity of the disease but being bipolar is something that can be managed. i know you look at your dad and see what he has gone through but dont base his life on what you will be like. i honestly think that you should stay away from weed, i know you want to try it.. just once, but once can turn into many times and if you run the risk of being bipolar adding something like weed to that mix will increase your chances of letting that disease seep through or becoming depressed. i know you understand me because of your dad, i watched my sister suffer too, and her disease, her depression and bipolar disorder at first.. had her doing drugs as hard as heroin.. so i think its safe to say that staying away from any and all kinds of drugs is a good thing. and look on the bright side for now, live your life and make the most of it but be aware of the symptoms of someone getting the disorder, be aware of what depression feels like so that if it starts to happen to you, you can get help right away and make sure that you get through the rest of your life happy.
Anonymous asked: 1. my life is falling apart, and i'm causing all of it. i've just started year 12. my boyfriend of 6 months broke up with me 3 weeks after i gave him my virginity because of year 12, then he decided he couldn't do it, so we got back together. i keep pushing him away, like i need him to prove to me that he will stay, but i know eventually he'll hit breaking point. i don't know how to be with him again. i told mum i had sex, she put me on the pill and it's fucking with my body.
Anonymous asked: 2. i've lost 7 kilos in the two months i've been on it, it's making me nauseous and angry all the time. my best friend was diagnosed with depression last year and she's getting worse. i'm her only confide but right now, i can't handle it. i can't be the person everyone needs when i am this destroyed. i've started cutting again as some kind of release, and my personal blog has gone from 50 posts between last julyish and january to 150 now.
